A friendly email (OT)

[Daniel van Eijmeren]

SIGVALD GROSFJELD, 04-06-2003:

> I know I have promised to go lurking, but I also said that I would 
> address you again if I did find that necessary!
> 
> Unfortunately it is now IMO very necessary. The reason is that 
> Harry Fluks IMO has been really rude to me in a private mail. I asked 
> him some friendly questions in private (in order to keep my promise to 
> you about being a lurker here at DCML for a month or so) but instead 
> of answering my questions Mr. Fluks rudely accused me of using dirty 
> tricks only because I told him you might find the answers to that 
> questions interesting just as me.

Please Sigvald, I BEG you, don't you see that this kind of personal 
"I-did-this-and-he-did-that" complaints are exactly what make people 
stand up against you?

If you don't want to lurk, then just contribute to this mailing list.
And obviously you don't really want to lurk, otherwise you wouldn't 
think of alternative ways to reach this mailing list.

But if you DO want to lurk for whatever reasons, then don't privately 
advice people what THEY should do on the mailing list. Just read the 
DCML and remain silent. That's lurking. That's what you "promised".
And if you regret that promise, then just admit that.

Anyhow, whatever you do, please stick to the subject of Disney comics. 
That's what you love in the first place, isn't it? That's why you want to 
be here, right? There are many details to discuss, and there are many 
different opinions here, but always remember that the MAIN interest 
(Disney comics) is the SAME for all of us. In that light we are all UNITED.
And discussing discussions is what makes us fall apart.

Communicating through email is difficult, especially when using different 
flavours of what once was English. If you think someone is rude to you, 
then just count to ten (or take a sleep) and try to imagine that this 
person didn't mean it as bad as it seems to you. 
You'll see that in 99 percent of the cases, that person didn't intend 
to be rude at all.

And this advice is certainly not intended for you only, 
because I'm trying to remind MYSELF of it, every day again.
It has saved me a lot of trouble, though.


--- Daniël

"Half of what I say is meaningless
 But I say it just to reach you"   -- John Lennon, 1968